Reasons and Ways to Nurture Friendships in your 30s

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Your 30s are a beautiful time for friendships. By the time you’re at this stage, you have so much going on, and you need companions with whom to celebrate life. If you are going through a rough time, that's all the more reason to have a solid handful of friends who you can truly count on. Here are five more reasons to invest in genuine friendships right now.

1. Your priorities have changed

In your 30s you are more concerned with quality than quantity. You know what you want, and how to get it. You know the kind of “friends” you don’t need in your life and how to prioritize the things and people that make you the best version of you. 

2. You've got more to share

Being able to make and manage your own money means you can also make better choices when it comes to spending, and treating your friends. If you choose to take everyone out for a weekend getaway or a girlfriend spa day, you may have more cash now than you did in your 20s for these kinds of gifts. 

3. You're more confident

That self-conscious you of your early 20s has grown up and gotten over the trip of trying to please everyone. Additionally, life's experiences has developed you into a more secure and confident woman. You can now offer the most honest version of yourself to date.  While you no longer live and die by the opinions of others, you still need the solid support of true friends who have your back when you decide to take on life and all of its challenges.

4. You've earned the right to have cheerleaders

Milestone moments call for massive celebrations! Your 30s are a great time to celebrate your wins. This means celebrating with those who know how hard you've worked to get there, and who can cheer for you without feeling envious. These are those down-in-the-trenches friends whom you call up when you get that raise, close a deal or survive your second C-section. 

5. You no longer take friendship for granted

Part of success is planning for the future. But let’s face it. You've seen a few friends come and go since college. You now know who the true keepers are, and you want to hold them close. Life is a gift, share it with those who are an important part of your life, today. Treat and value your besties with the same love and respect they have shown you, and that friendship will last forever. Reciprocation is key. 

Four simple ways to nurture those friendships

Now that we know why friends are so important in your 30s, how do you go about nurturing those relationships? We’re all busy people, juggling the responsibilities of work and family. But showing that you care doesn't necessarily take a lot of time. Like a plant being watered, friendships thrive on short but meaningful moments that are given and shared regularly.

1. Make it simple. 

Have real conversations on Skype, for free. Even though you may be living in different states or even continents, today it’s possible to get closer to your real friends in an instant. Brew a delicious, healthy cup of tea, turn on your Skype chat, and spend some quality time with your friend.

2. Go the old-fashioned route. 

Spend fifteen minutes handwriting a letter and mail it to your friend in a colorful envelope. Tell them how much they mean to you, what you miss about them, and what you’d say if you could see them right now.

3. Do some recon. 

If you've fallen out of touch with a beloved friend, the Internet makes it easy to find them and re-establish contact. You might be surprised by how easy it is to pick up where you left off. 

4. be intentional.

Make it a point to schedule friendship time. Plan a regular get-together, whether week-day lunches or once-a-month out of town getaways so you can bond more. Creating new memories will soon become one of your most important priorities, and it's a great one!

Your 30s can be an amazing, beautiful, and powerful time. Make these years count.

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. - Proverbs 17:17